Amaryllis

Last December I tucked an amaryllis bulb into a box and put it on the shelf in my closet. I’ve had it for years, but it had only bloomed once. Each time I replanted, it would send up leaves but no flower. If it didn’t bloom this time, I was going to toss it.

In March I was startled to see that it had sprouted. It had a flower stem but no leaves yet. It was waiting, pale in the dark, for someone to notice that it needed a pot, some soil, and sunlight.

Amaryllis bulb in box with shoot starting

Over the next few days it greened up and sprouted a second stem. Today, 12 days later, the first stem opened.

Amaryllis bulb in full bloom on March 23

It has never been lovelier.

Many of us are struggling right now with end-of-winter blues, with too many demands on our time, with too little confidence in ourselves. We want things back the way they were, when we were younger, stronger, more self-assured. When we were blooming.

I’ve been there, too. You feel neglected, unappreciated, maybe a little frightened that you’re not doing things right. You’re doing your best, but no one acknowledges it. Maybe you feel like a fraud. Listen: you’re fine. You’re in Leaf Mode.

The flower gets all the attention, but it’s the leaves that keep the plant going (with all due respect to the roots). It’s the leaves that make next year’s flower possible. All that photosynthesis! Dealing with those bugs! Recovering after storms! Those plain green exteriors belie the thousand tasks going on.

Step back from the blooming you don’t have time for now and embrace your role as leaves. You’re doing what you’re supposed to – trust that. If there’s something you can do better, then do better. Otherwise have confidence in where you are, have confidence in your contributions, even if they’re not perfect. Feed your soul with a healthy discipline, with gratitude, with insights.

Bloom when you can but take time to rejoice with the leaves.

Robert DePietro, hardwood contractor – one star, do not recommend

I met with Robert DePietro to talk about refinishing my hardwood floors. He looked at them as if they were old friends, like he could feel the grain of the wood through his shoes. “Every floor tells a story,” he said. He showed me lovely photos of some of his previous work and quoted me a price. He said to allow 10 days for labor and another week for the polyurethane to fully cure, so altogether about 2 1/2 weeks. I hired him.

The hardwood floors in question comprise the entire second story of my house, so I had to move as much as possible from the upstairs to the downstairs. Despite multiple runs to the Goodwill drop-off box, my living room soon resembled an episode of Hoarders, with careful paths among stacks of boxes, clothes, books, and small furniture. I resigned myself to sleeping on the couch. “It’s just for a couple of weeks,” I thought.

I couldn’t get all the big furniture downstairs by myself, and Rob assured me that was no problem. I suggested putting all of it in one room, doing the other 2 rooms, and then finishing the third. Oh, no, Rob said. We’ll put the furniture in the closets. We’ll do the rooms, and once the polyurethane has hardened, we’ll pull the furniture out of the closets and do the closets. I thought there’d be a line in the finish between the room and the closet. Oh no, he assured me. “I’ll feather it in.” I had misgivings, but he insisted.

The first day on the job, Rob asked for 50% of our agreed total. I gave it to him. Then the delays started. He had trouble with his truck. The customer at the job before mine decided that he wanted additional work done. These delays seemed credible, and I was patient.

Each morning Rob would drop off Christian, who worked on sanding the edging by himself. Issues developed with stains in the wood, and Christian didn’t know what to do. He phoned Rob but didn’t get much help. His hand sander broke down, and he borrowed mine. Christian worked alone until all the edging was done. Three bedrooms, three closets, and a hallway. By himself. Rob came in the evenings to pick him up. The first week of this 10-day job suffered from Rob’s absence.

In the second week, Rob said he couldn’t find a drum sander that worked. They were waiting for a part for the one in Centerville. He didn’t like the one in Rushville because they charged too much. There wasn’t one in Connersville or Liberty. Late in the week he brought one in – I didn’t ask where he found it – and sanded the floors.

In the third week, he started putting down the polyurethane. He’d promise to arrive at 9, and sometimes he’d be there by 10:30. He’d put down a first coat, which had to dry overnight. I was stuck at home, waiting for him.

One day he didn’t show up at all. When I asked him about it, he said, “Oh, yeah, I should have texted you.”

This became a pattern for the second coat and third coat – show up when he felt like it, leave when he was done. I was trapped in the house, waiting for him. Communication was poor. When there were issues, they were never his fault.

• “Sherwin-Williams didn’t get my order in.”

• “I had to meet with a lawyer. One of my previous clients is suing me.”

• “I had to do some drywall mudding at another site.”

During weeks 3 and 4, they pulled the furniture out of the closets and started putting down the poly there. But it bubbled up and felt like sand when it dried. Of course, that wasn’t his fault, either. Sherwin-Williams gave him the wrong stuff.

“I don’t care about blame,” I said. “I want a solution.”

We spent week 5, when he showed up, trying to get the problem areas sanded and fixed. He told me several times, “That will buff out.” It didn’t. He said of another issue, “I’ll feather that out.” But when he finished, there was a clear line where the different coats overlapped.

Oh, and the closets were now only getting 2 coats of poly. Why? “That’s all they need.” I was unhappy about this. He shrugged it off.

I gave up on perfect closet floors, but the landing at the top of the stairs was also a bubbly mess. I focused my complaints there. Rob tried to sand it down by hand. An electric sander would have had a vacuum to suck up the dust, but he didn’t use that. Dust fell into the grain of the wood. He tried to wipe it up, but it left nasty white patches.

On Monday of week 6, he was late again. I texted him, “I don’t understand why you don’t finish this job so I can pay you.” He texted back that there was a problem at the bank. He said that he had been there an hour, waiting to be helped. (When was the last time you spent an hour in a bank without being helped?) He showed up half an hour later with Christian. Then he left, and Christian sanded the landing by hand.

Christian left around 2:00 without saying a word. I texted Rob, who arrived a little later. Together we looked at the sanded landing, patchy and white.

Hardwood floor badly refinished with white blotches

I asked him a simple question. Would one more coat of poly resolve this? He thought it would. I let that thought hang in the air and waited for him to offer to do that. He did not.

Instead, he introduced me to a hardwood floor cleaning product that he described as “the best,” something called Bona. “If you will use this on the landing several times, you’ll get the dust out of the grain, and this spot will shine.” He handed me a partially-used box of Swiffer-style Bona pads.

Making it shine was his job, not mine. I told him to pack up his tools.

For the record, I paid him the rest of the contracted price. When you get a bad haircut, you still have to pay the stylist.

Parts of the work he did are very nice. But he stretched the work of 2 1/2 weeks out over 6 weeks needlessly, and it still wasn’t finished. He said he was sorry for the constant delays, but he continued to have them. He wasn’t willing to fix the mess he created at the top of the stairs. And now I have to pay someone else to fix his bad work.

I do not recommend him.

Memorial Day

The following is a fictionalized version of an actual event as told to me by my cousin Phil Kimes.

I walked into the unemployment office and stomped the snow off my boots. The waiting area, a collection of dull orange chairs grown threadbare, was empty. Next to an ash tray, a magazine cover proclaimed “Massacre at My Lai.”

The guy behind the counter was about my dad’s age, graying, with black-framed glasses. I used to play ball with his son, Randy.  “Hello, Mr. Shane!” We shook hands.

“Back from Vietnam, are you, Phil?”

“Yes, sir. The Navy let me out a couple months early. I’m looking for a job.”

“Well, you’ve come to the right place. We’ll get you fixed up. Your folks gettin’ along OK?”

I caught him up on my family as I filled out the forms and handed them back. He checked them, then he looked around. “Listen, you’ve got a few minutes, don’t you?”

“Yes, sir.”

“Come on back here and have some coffee.” He nodded to his assistant, and we walked back to his office.

 “I drink too much of this stuff,” he laughed, handing me a cup and warming up his own. “Started when I was about your age.” His wooden chair creaked as he settled in and paused, looking out the window at gray Indiana skies. The hot Styrofoam cup felt good in my hands.

“I served with your Uncle Bobby in the war, Phil.” He paused again. “I’m one of the last men who saw him alive.”

I leaned forward a little. Uncle Bobby had died in World War II.

“We were Bravo Company, First Battalion, Sixth Marines,” he said. “We’d spent 6 months in Hawaii training and gearing up. The end of May they shipped us out to the Mariana Islands. We were going to some damned place we’d never heard of called Saipan.

“They’d been bombing the island for two days before we got there, but it hadn’t done much good. The Japs knew the island, knew where to hide in the caves. They were waitin’ for us.

“I remember the sun beating down as we left the ship in the landing craft. We were 18, 19 years old, scared as hell. The enemy had dug in on the bluffs above the beach, and their snipers were hittin’ us as we came in. We waded through the water, and then we ran. All around us men were layin’ in sand, some screaming for help. We had to get to cover.”

His jaw tightened for a moment.

“We got ashore and somehow secured the beachhead. That night the Japs sent in tanks to try and take it back. They just kept coming and coming. We fought ‘em off. Next morning we heard they counted 44 tanks. Forty-four! Made us wonder what else they had.

“Years later we found out that our intel was bad. There was probably twice as many Japs on the island as they thought. But we were there, and our orders were to take the island.

“The captain sent us all north, and it was fierce fighting every step of the way. Me and my buddies – Joe and Pete and your uncle Bobby – we were hiding behind rocks and trees – fire and move, fire and move.”

He looked out the window a minute, cleared his throat.

“And then there was a break. We heard ‘em runnin’, and we reloaded. And then the sergeant yelled, ‘Let’s go!’ and we moved out.

“Well, the bastards had regrouped. We came around a corner, and there was a nest of ‘em. We were outnumbered 3 to 1. Maybe more. We dug in behind a log and laid down fire, it was all we could do. We couldn’t see anything to aim at – we were firing blind and hoping. The rest of the guys in the squad were scattered. We could hear ‘em yelling all around us.

“The sergeant told us to fall back, but we couldn’t move. They had us. And we were gettin’ low on ammo. We looked at each other, and we knew.

“And then your Uncle Bobby …” he paused. “‘Gimme what ya got,’ he said. ‘I’m gonna draw their fire. You get out of here.’

“’No, you don’t have to do this,’ I told him.

“Pete blurted, ‘Bobby, we ain’t leavin’ you here.’

“But Bobby had made up his mind. ‘Look, we’re not all gettin’ out of this,’ he said. ‘I’ll draw their fire. You guys are married, and I’m not. You get home, you kiss your wife once for me. Now give it!’”

“We laid what we had left on the ground: two grenades and a couple of clips.

“‘All right,’ he said evenly. ‘Now get ready.’

“We found his body a couple days later. He’d tossed both grenades, and he only had half a clip left. He’d been hit at least 50 times. Me and Pete and Joe found a spot under a tree, a place that looked kinda peaceful, you know, and we buried him there.”

He stared out the window a long moment. “We’re hearing things about Vietnam that are hard to understand. This Agent Orange thing. Hearing a lot about soldiers and drugs. Things happen in war, and you carry it with you. But you still have to live your life.

“’Cause, son, I’m here today because of your uncle Bobby. We lost a good man on Saipan that day. Let’s talk about what kind of job you’re looking for. You’re not leaving here until we’ve found you what you want.”